Friday, March 27, 2009

349th Issue of the LFCA

Welcome to today's edition of Connections Abound. The point to Lost and Found is to level the support playing field. When LFCA works correctly, the newest blogger with the smallest readership can receive the same level of support as the oldest blogger with the largest readership. Anyone can submit news to LFCA by clicking here.

Lost and Found is open to anyone in the
infertility, pregnancy loss, adoption, pregnancy-and-parenting after infertility, assisted conception, living child-free after infertility or loss community (as well as anyone I inadvertently missed on that list). Please support the list as well as anyone posting announcements below.

Connections Abound

  • Kirtsy'd Pick O' the Day: Please vote for this one from Stirrup Queens (yes, I feel awkward Kirtsying my own post, but Lori made me do it). A post about MTV's recent documentary about adoption and how the author viewed the missing element that existed for both women who were considering creating an adoption plan. How do you vote? Simply by clicking on the words "this one" above and then clicking on the post's title. Why the Kirtsy'd Pick O' the Day? Click on that link in the header navigation bar above for the story. And send me stuff!
  • The next issue will be the 350th issue. Just saying. I mean, I'd like to celebrate on Monday.
  • Forums: Starting tonight, there will be an open thread on the forums for people to use as the weekend LFCA. The top post in the thread will explain how it works. Please post news there over the weekend so we can see if you get the support you need from the thread. If you want the same news to run in the Monday LFCA, submit it here too via the form. If you don't yet belong to the forums, join if you want to have access to the weekend LFCA.
  • Fundraiser: Jen from Here We Go Again is doing the March of Dimes walk in honour of Mrs. Spit's Gabriel. Please support both women--Jen by sponsoring her walk and Mrs. Spit by honouring her son.
  • Project: "May 10th 2009 will not be a depressing day for us stirrup queens this year. Please check out the following link for more details on how you can make it ROCK! OMG! YOU ROCK DAY May 10th 2009." [Mel's note: She made a really cool icon too. She is obviously more advanced than my Microsoft Paint skills].
  • Closed Blog: Aw.ake I.n T.he Worl.d will stop posting for now and then will move to a new blog space. She believes her blog was found by an unsafe person. She is safe, however, and will try to contact her commenters as soon as possible.
  • Giveaway: Shannon is giving away a swift and ball winder to a lucky knitter or crocheter. You have until April 3 to enter. [Mel's note: and it looks really cool even though I don't know how to use one].
  • Forums: If you're not already on the forums, you may want to join before Friday night. We're doing our first test run of the open thread idea, having people to a potluck version of the LFCA on the weekends or days I can't post (such as Pesach in two weeks). Everyone is welcome to join, in fact, you are encouraged to join because on non-LFCA days and weekends, this is the way to get support.
  • Conference: Jenn To Infertility and Beyond Jenn at To Infertility and Beyond is co-chair of the Great Lakes Resolve Ohio Family Building Conference in Dayton, OH, on Saturday, April 4th. Midwest bloggers are encouraged to come. There are giveaways, including $500 towards medicine or treatment. Mrs Spock is attending, and would love to meet any local bloggers planning on coming as well.
  • If you notice another loading slow down or receive error messages for Stirrup Queens or Lost and Found, please let me know. Now I'm nervous every time I add anything to the side bar!
NEW BLOGS (started in February or March 2009)
BIRTHDAYS AND ANNIVERSARIES (celebrate your birthday or blogoversary with the community. Send me date at any point and I'll post them on the correct day)
LOSS REMEMBRANCES (send in the dates of loss anniversaries and I will post them on the correct day)
  • It was two years ago today that Amber last saw AJ's heartbeat. Please go give her support.
  • Sad news--my friend, M, who made the IVF picture display (and contributed many videos to the IVF Shoot 'Em Up) lost her boy at 20 weeks. There was no heartbeat and no explanation. She had the D&E yesterday. She is blog-less, so please post messages of support on this post and I will make sure she receives them.
MISCELLANEOUS SUPPORT AND CELEBRATIONS (scary scans, anxious waits, OHSS, and a host of other reasons why these bloggers could use some additional support right now. Also, celebratory retrievals, transfers, and other good news)
  • Mixing it Up is triggering this weekend and has retrieval set for Sunday. She has three follicles and is hoping for two embryos. This is their final cycle so please surround her with love this weekend.
  • G$'s first IVF didn't work. She's asking for no "I'm sorrys" but would rather have some curse words. Go give her your best one.
  • My Hopeful Heart is having a rough time and could use some hugs.
  • Care has not been having a smooth move to their new house. She could use some support as she and the boys adjust to their new neighborhood.
  • Meg survived the first week of this 2WW but is starting to get a bit anxious and could use some company.
  • Baby Interrupted's retrieval yielded five eggs.
  • Lisa's donor egg cycle has resulted in 9 embryos. Keep her company while she waits for fertilization results.
  • Overeducated Mommy had her cancer surgery yesterday and is now cancer free! Go congratulate her and wait with her as she waits to find out if radiated iodine will be necessary.
BEDREST BABES: on bedrest following infertility or loss and needing support. Drop in on them and keep them company.
  • Heather is on bedrest for the foreseeable future after having a cerclage put in. Sweetpea is still doing great!
  • G is home, but now on bedrest. Go give her some love as she cooks these babies a little longer.
  • Hoping for Another Lovebug is on hospital bedrest for the remainder of the pregnancy. Please keep her company. She has Internet access, though reading is easier than typing.
  • Almamay writes: "I found out at our 20 week scan that we are expecting a boy. We are over the moon after waiting almost 15 years for our family. I'm still invite only but if people email me I'll send them an invite."
  • Nishkanu has gotten a good beta on her last IVF cycle w/ DE. Nothing bad has happened yet.
  • Leslie's IVF cycle has resulted in a BFP!
  • Jill has rising betas!
  • There's Hope gave birth to a girl, Madeleine, on March 24th. Go over and wish them congratulations!
Read and Support


N said...

I'm so, so sorry to hear about your friend M. She is in my thoughts.

Katie said...

Please give your friend M my condolences. While I can't imagine what she is going through, my heart goes out to her. She and her family will be in my prayers

k@lakly said...

I'm so sorry for M.. Please let her know my thoughts are with her and her family as they begin this awful journey. She will not be alone. Let her know we are all here for her.

Anonymous said...

Big hugs for your friend. I can't even imagine, not for the life of me, what she must be feeling. I am 17 weeks along and scared to death of this very thing. I wish her peace and lots of love. No one should have to go through something like this.

babyinterrupted said...

Please let M know that our hearts are breaking for her.

noswimmers said...

Big hugs to your friend M. I am so incredibly sorry for her great loss.

Anonymous said...

Please let M know that I am thinking of her, and I am so very sorry.

Anonymous said...

M, I am so sorry for your huge loss. My heart breaks for her and I send many ((hugs)).

areyoukiddingme said...

M, I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. You're in my prayers.

orodemniades said...

Oh M, I am so so sorry for the tragic loss of your son.0 said...

Dear M,

I am so sorry about your loss. I hope that Gods gives you strength to live by and the survive the grief of the demise of your precious baby.

All the very best.

Queenie. . . said...

Mel, I am completely heartbroken for M. I so enjoyed her photo display. After everything she's been through, it's just so unfair. Please let her know she's in my thoughts.

Anonymous said...

Dear M, I am so sorry that your precious little baby boy died. I often wish like hell things like this didn't happen everyday but they do, babies die for no reason, as my daughter Janaki did a few days after she hit 20 weeks. If only wishes were enough. You are not alone, as bad as it is right now, during the darkest time a parent has to face. This is heartbreaking, just devastating. I wish I could offer some comfort but all I can say is that I'm sorry your little one died.

My thoughts are with you and your partner/family during this sad time.

Nina said...

Oh. Oh God. I'm so sorry for her! I've been right where she is. Please send her much love and hugs from me.

orodemniades said...

M, I am so very sorry for your loss.

Anonymous said...

M, I am heartbroken for you. I will have you in my prayers.