Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Tuesday's Connections Abound

Welcome to today's edition of Connections Abound. The point to Lost and Found is to level the support playing field. When LFCA works correctly, the newest blogger with the smallest readership can receive the same level of support as the oldest blogger with the largest readership. Anyone can submit news to LFCA by clicking here.

Lost and Found is open to anyone in the infertility, pregnancy loss, adoption, pregnancy-and-parenting after infertility, assisted conception, living child-free after infertility or loss community (as well as anyone I inadvertently missed on that list). Please support the list as well as anyone posting announcements below.

Connections Abound

  • Kirtsy'd Pick O' the Day: Please vote for this one from Barren is the New Black. A scathing open note to two women who attended the author's yoga class, but truly, a manifesto on being mindful of the fact that even when you have sunshine, others may have rain.. How do you vote? Simply by clicking on the link above and then clicking on the post's title. Why the Kirtsy'd Pick O' the Day? Click on that link in the header navigation bar above for the story. And send me stuff!
  • 108 people already on the The Creme de la Creme List. Are you?
  • Big Breasted Ladies: Did that get your attention? A blogger who shall remain nameless is looking for a place to purchase a bra in the size of 38F. She is having a lot of trouble locating a bra that can support the goods in her post-IVF pregnancy. Please leave a comment in the comment section below and she will collect the answers here.
  • Read This: The AFA published an article in their November 2008 eConnections Newsletter DI Dad submitted regarding his desire to create a new local support group, Donor Conception New York.
  • Read This: Our Bodies, Our Blog (the blog connected with Our Bodies, Ourselves) just posted an interview with Mrs Spock about pregnancy and infertility.
  • Giveaway: Kate at Gluten Free Gobsmacked is having an adoption auction fundraiser, and is auctioning off Gluten Free Girl's Book. While Kate's blog is mostly full of yummy gluten free recipes, she has also gone through IF and is currently pursuing adoption. She is hoping this fundraiser will help her finance her adoption.
  • Question: Lisa is trying to decide between IUI or IVF with donor egg. She could use support and your thoughts if you have been in this situation.
  • Question: A reader of Pamela Jeanne posted a question on her blog about her upcoming HSG and fears. Please go weigh in with your thoughts and give some calming words.
  • New IComLeavWe list opened for December (with a caveat about participating over Christmas). Come join along and increase your comments.
  • Bridges continues to post daily. And it continues to be an amazing resource for insight into a multitude of worlds. And I'm not just saying that because I work on it.
  • If you notice another loading slow down or receive error messages for Stirrup Queens or Lost and Found, please let me know. Now I'm nervous every time I add anything to the side bar!
NEW BLOGS (started in November or December 2008)
BIRTHDAYS AND ANNIVERSARIES (celebrate your birthday or blogoversary with the community. Send me date at any point and I'll post them on the correct day)
LOSS REMEMBRANCES (send in the dates of loss anniversaries and I will post them on the correct day)
  • Wednesday is the anniversary of Amy finding out that William had died. Please sit with her during this difficult time.
  • Last Thursday would have been the second birthday of the baby Sticky Bun lost in her first miscarriage. Remember with her.
  • None Today.
MISCELLANEOUS SUPPORT AND CELEBRATIONS (scary scans, anxious waits, OHSS, and a host of other reasons why these bloggers could use some additional support right now. Also, celebratory retrievals, transfers, and other good news)
  • Infertility on the Brain had 8 eggs fertilize! She'll know about transfer soon.
  • Our Family Beginnings has great news--she matched with an expectant mother who is set to give birth at the end of May. Go wish her congratulations.
  • Please give some support to Michele who has had bad news after her the devestating loss of her third child. She is in a difficult place right now and needs a lot of love.
  • Dora had a negative beta. Please give her support.
  • Mo had her retrieval this Sunday and 8 fertilized. She will have her transfer either on Wednesday or Friday.
  • Melanie at How to Get From 0 to Pregnant in 365 Easy Steps is having her transfer Tuesday or Wednesday. This is her third IVF, so she could use lots of cheers, hugs, and overall support!
  • WiseGuy got a BFN and is upset, dazed and emotionally broke.
  • Clio had her retrieval yesterday. She'll post the fert report soon.
  • Rachie is having her retrieval today.
  • Dayzofrain has had a rough week. She could use some support.
  • Jen and CJ had their first donor IUI on Sunday.
  • Gwinne's IUI is scheduled for today.
  • Nity had her transfer on Sunday. Go wish her luck!
  • M&M announced they have finalized the paperwork for their daughter and the birth certificate will be arriving soon!
  • NoSwimmers her 6th dIUI. Send her lots of good thoughts as she enters this TWW. Her beta is scheduled for 12/23... here's hoping for a Merry Christmas!
  • B MOM is having surgery on the 11th. Please wish her well.
  • Antigone's beloved dog Sothis is lost. Sothis has been a huge support for her during very rough times and she could use support as she waits for him to find his way home.
  • Sprogblogger is having erratic betas and now they're not sure if it's eptopic. Go give her some support.
BEDREST BABES: on bedrest following infertility or loss and needing support. Drop in on them and keep them company.
  • CC at Inconceivable No More got a fetal fibronectin test and so is on modified bedrest for at least the next two week. Go keep her company.
  • Denise is on bedrest at home.
  • Dee is on bedrest after Pprom at 13 weeks. She could use support as she helps her babies defy the odds. She has made it past 20 weeks and found a specialist to take her on.
  • Elana is in the hospital for observation and cerclage. Both babies are fine, and she is on modified bed rest for the foreseeable future.
  • You're Still Young had a second beta of 1095. She goes back to the clinic today. Give her good thoughts.
  • Jill had a great beta and lots of positive pee sticks for the FET from IVF #3!
  • Heather had a great 7 week ultrasound of the twins - heartrate of both at 150bpm
  • Cece gave birth to a boy on Friday, December 5th. Go over and wish her congratulations.
  • Lauren at Destination Babyville gave birth to a boy, Ben, on December 6th. Go wish her congratulations.
Read and Support


Mer said...

Bare Necessities, which has a website, has an amazing selection of large bras. My chest grew to porn star like proportions during pregnancy (38F might have been the size), and I found a number of bras there. I went to the store because it's near my parents' house but I have also ordered from there in the past and it's great. I highly recommend it.

Mary said...

Lane Bryant if you don't mind spending the money for them, they are super comfy (and on clearance the week after Christmas). They also have a Lane Bryant Maternity online that sells nursing bras if you want to kill 2 birds with one stone but I have no idea if those go on clearance or not.

G$ said...

Try Wacoal bras - you can get them at Nordstroms or as Mer said, Bare necessities. They have up to a G cup, iirc.

dee said...

A 38G chiming in here (and yes, that is/was before pregnancy), and I found that the best selection for us larger breasted gals is found at Nordstrom. Not only that, but they do offer a measuring service so you're assured you'll get the right fit.

At the same time, be prepared to pay nicely. I got three bras about a year or so back and the total tab came to just over $200. But oh, the support! I don't think I'd ever had bras that held me like that before.

Also, sometimes you can find a nice Wacoal at TJMaxx in their lingerie section. I believe I've gotten two there in the past year or so for a much more manageable price.

Valerie said...

Lady Grace if you have one around you is a great place for the large boobed ladies.

ms. c said...

I second the Wacoal if you are looking for support in pregnancy. I have worn those for a loooong time.
Or, you can jump right to nursing bras. I am wearing Bravodo, (specifically this bra: http://www.bravadodesigns.com/product.asp?ID=4&area=US) and they are great. Not cheap, but very worth it. As they are nursing bras they have no underwire, so if you are finding that you need to sleep in a bra during pregancy, this is comfy.

Tina / Anxious Changer said...

Try Bra Smyth - I am that size by nature, and the fitting of bras I have were the best in my 35 years!

Jendeis said...

LB (as I call Lane Bryant) has a large selection of colors and prints for the boobtacular lady.

Wacoal is fabulous, but I've found them to be fantastically expensive.

You can also try online with Lady Grace, they carry lots of manufacturers.

Anonymous said...

Try ebay. I was a 34J pre-pregnancy and there are a few ebay stores based in the UK that carry large sizes at great prices.

MrsSpock said...

I found the selection at Lane Giant had plenty for the more boobalicious...

Rachel said...

Big bras can be found here:

http://ladygrace.com/ is good for standard bras in large sizes.

http://decentexposures.com/ is good for alterna-comfy bras.

luna said...

for the big boobied woman:

if you don't mind trying to shop on the internet -- which can be hard until you find one that works -- I love freshpair. you can search by bra size and their customer service is great: