Wednesday, December 2, 2009

495th Issue of the LFCA

Welcome to today's edition of Connections Abound. The point of Lost and Found is to level the support playing field. When LFCA works correctly, the newest blogger with the smallest readership can receive the same level of support as the oldest blogger with the largest readership. Anyone can submit news to LFCA by clicking here.

Lost and Found is open to anyone in the
infertility, pregnancy loss, adoption, pregnancy-and-parenting after infertility, assisted conception, living child-free after infertility or loss community (as well as anyone I inadvertently missed on that list). Please support the list as well as anyone posting announcements below.

Connections Abound

MISCELLANEOUS NEWS
New
  • Kirtsy'd Pick O' the Day: GAAAAAAAAAAH! Kirtsy is down yet again.
  • Whoa: We are five issues away from the 500th LFCA.
  • Webcast Show: Melissa from Full Circle writes: "I am working on launching a new MomTV show starting in January called "Adoption Angles". My vision is for it to be inspirational, informative and fun. Eventually I would like to have cohosts that represent fost/adopt, domestic and international adoption. Think "The View" but with way less drama. I am currently looking for guests that would be willing to share their story with our viewers. All they would need is high speed Internet, a web cam and a 1/2 hour to chat."
  • Help a Support Group: Share Southern Vermont asks: "What if your favorite charity earned a donation every time you searched the Internet? Or how about if a percentage of every purchase you made online went to support the cause? Well, now it can! GoodSearch.com is a new Yahoo-powered search engine that donates half its advertising revenue, about a penny per search, to the charities its users designate. Use it just as you would any search engine, get quality search results from Yahoo, and watch the donations add up! GoodShop.com is a new online shopping mall which donates up to 30 percent of each purchase to your favorite cause! Hundreds of great stores including Amazon, Target, Gap, Best Buy, ebay, Macy's and Barnes & Noble have teamed up with GoodShop and every time you place an order, you'll be supporting your favorite cause. If you have been cheering on Share Southern Vermont from afar for the last year this is great way to support us from the comfort of your cross-country (and beyond) homes! Add the Share Southern Vermont toolbar at http://www.goodsearch.com/toolbar/share-southern-vermont. We at SSV thank you in advance for using this toolbar to make your holiday season brighter and raise money for our cause simultaneously."
  • Daily Update: There are currently 140 participants on the Creme de la Creme 2009 list.
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  • Interview: STE is looking to interview people for a graduate school project. She writes: "I need to do a couple of short (half-hour-ish) or one longish interview (or a few 15-20ish minutes) for my qualitative class and have decided that this project will be focus on DBMs in academia, who were/are either working on graduate/PhD degrees or newly PhD-ed/employed/tenured when they experienced their loss. This is purely for practice, no publication, no obligation, and I have no professional skills whatsoever. But it would be totally anonymous and confidential. You can totally opt out at any time." Please help her out if you can.
  • Forums: If you are not a member of the forums, you will not have access to the LFCA on days when we are utilizing an open thread in the forums instead of posting on this site. Any blog reader or writer can become a member of the forums by clicking here and registering. On days when we don't have the LFCA, it also follows that I'll be slow on approving new members (that whole lack of Internet access thing) so please be patient.
NEW BLOGS (started in October or November 2009)
BIRTHDAYS AND ANNIVERSARIES (celebrate your birthday or blogoversary with the community. Send me date at any point and I'll post them on the correct day)
  • Are We There Yet is celebrating her birthday on Thursday. Go sing her a little song.
  • The Dragondreamer's Lair is celebrating her birthday next Sunday. Go eat a slice of cake with her.
  • Liddy from the Unfair Struggle and E are celebrating their anniversary today. Go wish them congratulations.
LOSS REMEMBRANCES (send in the dates of loss anniversaries and I will post them on the correct day)
  • The Maybe Baby will be remembering Jovi and Isa on Saturday. Please keep her company this week.
LOSS ANNOUNCEMENTS
  • None Today.
MISCELLANEOUS SUPPORT AND CELEBRATIONS (scary scans, anxious waits, OHSS, and a host of other reasons why these bloggers could use some additional support right now. Also, celebratory retrievals, transfers, and other good news)
  • I Can Haz Bebe is sick with grief and support needs to come on the terms she has clearly stated in this post. Their adoption was disrupted when they were supposed to be going home with Liam. A simple message that you are abiding with her so she knows that she is not alone can be left at the bottom of this LFCA post so all can be collected and sent to her when she is ready to read the messages of love. Please, no platitudes or promises; just a simple message of support and love.
  • Turia's FET with her final two embryos is on Friday. She could really use some company in the WUB.
  • Peaches is scheduled for transfer on Friday.
  • Hope Springs is on ICSI #2 and just heard that only one of the four eggs that were collected on Wednesday has fertilised. Transfer is scheduled for Friday afternoon, and she's waiting with great trepidation to see whether the single embryo survives the next 24 hours. This could be the last shot she gets before moving on to possible embryo donation, so positive thoughts and prayers would be very much appreciated.
BEDREST BABES: on bedrest following infertility or loss and needing support. Drop in on them and keep them company.
  • None Today.
PREGNANCY ANNOUNCEMENTS AND NEWS
BIRTH AND ADOPTION ANNOUNCEMENTS
  • BMom brought little Kaua into the world on Friday. They are both doing great. Go wish her congratulations.
  • Leslie gave birth to a daughter, Lyla, on November 27. Go wish her congratulations.
Read and Support

54 comments:

MicheleL said...

To Bon: I am so very sorry. You're in my prayers.

Lynn said...

For Bon - My thoughts are with you. Sending much love and support your way.

Barefoot said...

Bon: Thinking of you, and sending lots of prayers your way. I am so sorry.

Rain Child said...

Bon, my thoughts and prayers are with you!

Anonymous said...

Bon - I too am so very sorry. What a terrible, terrible thing to have happen. I want to scream for you.

Kate said...

Bon - I have no words. Please know that I am thinking about you and that you and your family are in my prayers.

Trinity said...

Bon...I am so genuinely sorry for your loss. It's incomprehensible. You are in my thoughts.

Allison (Ali) said...

Bon,
You and your family are in my prayers. There are no words.

Allison

areyoukiddingme said...

Bon, I am so sorry that this has happened. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband.

Sam said...

Bon: My heart is breaking for you right now. You remain in my prayers.
Sam

Anonymous said...

Bon: heartbroken for you.

Melis.sa said...

Bon, i've been praying for you for days. Please know you aren't far from my thoughts. ((HUG))

Delenn said...

All night I thought of you and wished there was a way to help. I am angry and so sorry and wish you were not going through this. Thinking of you.

Jendeis said...

Bon: Sending strength and love to you and DH.

Anonymous said...

Bon - I am so very sorry. No one should ever have to go through that. I was in your shoes 2 1/2 years ago. I didn't leave the house for over a week. It does get better as time goes by, but I still think of her every day. I will be praying for you and your husband.

Erin

special55k said...

Bon,
I have been thinking of you for the last couple of days. Sending you love and support and good thoughts. I wish I could do more.

JuliaS said...

Bon - no words, there are none - nothing adequate, nothing at all. I am so sorry for this pain. Holding you and your family in my heart, thoughts and hopes.

babyinterrupted said...

To Bon: I am so very, very sorry. So many tears for you.

loribeth said...

Bon, I am so sorry. This is a loss, just as surely as if you carried that baby yourself. (((hugs)))

Michele said...

Bon, I am so sorry. Sending prayers...

tireegal68 said...

Dear Bon,
I am so sorry for your loss. I am sending you my love and prayers to you and your DH and your whole family.

Journeywoman said...

Bon,

I am so so sorry. I wish I could say more, do more, to help. I will wish and pray for comfort for you.

Carolyne said...

Bon, Thinking of you and the family at this awful time.

tickintime said...

Bon: I am so sorry. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

Linda said...

To Bon: Delurking to say I am so very sorry and I will be holding you in my thoughts and prayers and in my heart.

Michele said...

Bon: My heart hurts while reading your post. The pain you are feeling radiates through your post. I am so sorry.

rescogitatae said...

To Bon: I am so very very sorry. I am thinking about you every single day. With love and hugs.

Chickenpig said...

Bon, I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you love, strength, and hope through the internet. Hope most of all.

Jo said...

Bon -- we are here with you.

(((((Hugs))))))
Jo

annacyclopedia said...

Bon, I am so very sorry for your loss. You have been in my thoughts and prayers and will remain there.

Quiet Dreams said...

I'm so, so, so very sorry. I know there are no words. Thinking of and praying for you and your husband.

Mer said...

For Bon, who I have never met but who I am keeping in my heart and thoughts. I am so very sorry.

Just me said...

Bon, I am so sorry. Wishing you comfort and continued strength.

PJ said...

Gwinne over at http://something-remarkable.blogspot.com/ could use some love right about now. She's bleeding at 9dpo after an IUI.

I saw your book in the (July/Aug?)Conceive magazine while at my OB appointment today! Woohoo!

Roadblocks and Roller Coasters said...

Bon: I'm thinking of you and praying for you.

Anonymous said...

Bon, I have no words, but my heart thoughts and prayers go out to you both.

liberalgranolagirl said...

I don't know you but I happened upon your blog tonight. Please know that I am praying for you and your family. No words can express how heartbroken I am for you.

JC said...

To Bon, I'm so so sorry.

addingtothepack said...

Bon, You and your family are in my thoughts.

Ashley said...

Bon, Prayers for your heart's healing.

sprogblogger said...

Bon: I am so terribly sorry.

Ally said...

I am so very, very sorry. My heart aches for you and you are in my thoughts and prayers. May you be surrounded by love and kindness.

Mrs. Gamgee said...

Bon - I am so very sorry. Holding you in my prayers and in my heart.

Willow said...

Bon, I read your post and burst into tears. I am so, so sorry, I can't even express how much. That is absolutely the worst thing that could happen to an adoptive parent. What a heartbreaking loss.

Natalie said...

To Bon: I am so sorry.

Baby Smiling In Back Seat said...

Bon, You write so eloquently of your heartbreak. I am so terribly sorry.

AnxiousMummyto3 said...

Bon, my thoughts are with you during this sad and difficult time.

edenland said...

Oh Bon.

I don't know why this happened. There is no sense to be made. Holding you up in my thoughts, with love.

Be gentle on yourself.

XO

Shinejil said...

@ Bon: Sending love and support your way.

Melody said...

Bon: Sending you light and love.

Anonymous said...

Bon - Praying for you and your family.

Good Egg Hunting said...

Bon - sending you thoughts of strength and best wishes.

Good Egg Hunting

Michaela said...

Bon - I am so so sorry and my heart breaks for you. :(

Dora said...

Bon, I'm so sorry. My heart twisted into a knot when I read your news. Please be gentle with yourself. We're all thinking of you.